I took a long, hard bike ride at the weekend, hoping to learn something about my dead father. In the end, I found out something unexpected about me and my own children.
MY DAD committed suicide almost a quarter of a century ago, and yet I am still in a relationship with him.
He still makes me angry, because – before he asphyxiated himself with his car exhaust – he left my brother a loving note and chose not to write to me.
He still makes me insecure, because he obviously didn’t like me much.
And this rage and self-doubt he left me with combine – still – to put me in preposterous competition with a man who has been in the ground almost 25 years.
I want to beat him by living longer (tick); by being a better Dad (tick?) and by beating my own depression (tick, sort of).
And at the weekend, I was going to be better than him on the bike.Continue reading “The Long Road To Forgiving My Father”